Move Towards a Balanced, Holistic-Inspired Mindset!
Before I started with the concept of growing together, many of the parents I worked with felt guilty on a regular basis. Guilty because they felt too tired to play another round of Uno, guilty because they arrived late at school, guilty because if they just would have been a little more patient, things probably would have turned out differently. But how can we turn this guilt-based mindset into something that will change your life and the life of your child forever?
If there is one thing I learned over the years as a holistic-minded child psychologist, it is that guilt is one the biggest killers for your parenting process and for the honoring of your own growth process. Beating yourself up for your flaws doesn’t have the effect you hope! Because guilt undermines the power of growth. But how can you be more compassionated about yourself?
Good parenting books can get you a long way, but the thing that we forget is that our children need you. You in your purest form! Not some superhero that covers their flaws, overstepping their own boundaries in doing so, and providing our children with a picture of the world that is false and unreal. You growing everyday to live a balanced and satisfying life for yourself and therefore for your children. That is the only commitment you have to make for yourself and your family. Children need to see your flaws—and how you deal with them, accept them, and decide if (and how) to work with them. Because in every flaw lies information about where you are in terms of balance and imbalance.
Being comfortable with balance, imbalance and the road in between is not easy for children, therefore they need a role model of growth, someone they can grow with together. Someone who know that all humans are growbies—“growing beings.” Changing your guilt-oriented mindsets towards a balanced, holistic-inspired growth mindset will make all the difference for you and your child. Our tools will support you to do just that on every level, together with your children.
